Question 1
Since I was five years old, my cousin and I have been very close, and over time, we became sweethearts. Unfortunately, we acted on these feelings occasionally, but we always had to keep our emotions hidden because of our family. Now, 15 years later, we still have the same feelings. It’s an on-and-off situation; we think about each other even after years of not meeting. We both feel that we understand one another better than anyone else, and despite the people who have come into our lives or how much we’ve prayed to move on, the feelings haven’t faded.
I need advice on what this means for both of us. I don’t want to sin anymore; I want to be with him and for us to grow closer to Allah.
Answer 1
Question 2
As-salāmu ‘alaykum,
My mother’s younger sister’s daughter loves me deeply and wants to marry me. Can I marry her or not? Please guide me.
Thanks
Answer 2
Question 3
I am about to get married to my father’s sister’s son. Can you clarify whether this is allowed in Islam? In verses 23 and 24 of Surah An-Nisa, cousins are not included in the mahram category, and we are told that all others are lawful.
However, in verse 50 of Surah Al-Ahzab, Allah mentions that daughters of maternal uncles are lawful but states that this applies only to the Prophet. Can you explain this in light of these verses? Should I decline this proposal?
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Question 4
My aunt (Khalah) told me that I was breastfed once by her, whose daughter I wish to marry. When I asked her for details, she said that when I was 9 months old, she tried to breastfeed me. She mentioned that she held me in her arms for less than 1 minute, and I did not suckle. She tried again, but I did not drink or attempt to drink. However, she thinks that perhaps a few drops of milk might have gone.Is it permissible for me to marry her daughter?
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Question 5
I have had strong feelings for my father’s cousin since childhood, who is two years older than I. I want to know if marrying him would be permissible. However, even if it is, my family may not approve as they are more modern. Which family members are considered mahram?
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Question 6
Is it permissible or advisable to marry a second-generation first cousin (maternal uncle's daughter)? My maternal uncle also married his maternal uncle’s daughter, which makes this a second-generation cousin marriage. I heard a hadith discouraging cousin marriages over multiple generations. Is this true?
Note: My parents are not related consanguineously.
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Question 7
I’m 19 and being considered for an arranged marriage with a cousin. I can’t seem to agree because I don’t find him attractive, and he is much older than me. He has good qualities, but I fear I won’t feel a connection or attraction, which could affect our future, especially with children. By the time I’m 23, he’ll be 40. Am I wrong to consider these factors, or should I accept the proposal and suppress these concerns?
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Question 8
I am interested in proposing marriage to my first cousin. My parents were first cousins, and I have come to learn that marrying a first cousin may be disliked due to hereditary diseases in my family that could be passed on to my children. I have made istikhara, and the interpretation was positive. I love my cousin but will not marry her if it is considered disliked or displeasing to Allah (swt). Please advise me on how I should proceed.
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Question 9
My question concerns marrying first cousins. Although it is permissible in Islam, I have heard many people argue against it, citing health risks and higher rates of disabilities in children. I find it difficult to understand how a ruling in Islam could potentially put people or children at risk. I am not questioning the Islamic ruling, as I would never oppose anything in Islam, but I am seeking clarification to better understand it, especially since non-Muslims often reference specific studies on this matter.
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Question 10
She is very virtuous and pious, and I admire her greatly. I make duaa that I can marry her and complete the sunnah of the noble Prophet (saws) to marry more than once. I know for sure that whoever marries her, if Allah, through His infinite Wisdom, does not give her in marriage to me, will make another brother 'very happy.' Is it bad of me to have such a thought, even though I want something which is halal? Is there anything in Shariah to suggest that a man can't marry any of his wife's relatives, excluding her sisters, if she has any? Is it possible for wives to live in the same house as long as they have their own bedrooms but are treated fairly in terms of clothing, food, etc., if they agree? Or must they have totally separate space? Your advice and time in answering this question are much appreciated. May Allah bless you.
Answer 10