Question 1
Is it correct for me to continue working in this mixed environment when I have two earning blood relatives to support my family and fulfill my needs? Or is it an obligation for my father and brother to take care of my needs?
Is my fiancé a miser for not taking care of my expenses before marriage and expecting my family to do so?
Is my fiancé responsible for my pre-wedding expenses, other than the dowry (mahr), which he is ready to pay?
Is it Islamic for me to ask for gifts I desire or does it fall under demand?
What responsibility do my family members have for my expenses before marriage?
Can I break my relationship because of the perception that my fiancé is stingy, and how does Islam guide me in this situation?
Am I correct to perceive my fiancé as a miser for not taking care of my pre-wedding expenses, and is it right to hold him accountable for this?
Is it permissible in Islam to break a relationship based on the perception of stinginess, given that my fiancé has agreed to take care of all my expenses after marriage?
Answer 1
Question 2
I have a fiancée who is giving me problems with money. She wants so many expensive things just for the wedding and the honeymoon. I keep saying that we shouldn’t spend too much money on these things because it will lose barakah, but she just says it’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing. Is she right? Is spending a lot of money just for a wedding and a one-week honeymoon justified just because it’s only once in our life? Please let me know. I already know about spending on the wife being good, but I’m not referring to food, clothing, or housing—only the extravagant things.
Answer 2
Question 3
Who is responsible for the dowry and the wedding costs? If the bride refuses to consummate the marriage, who is responsible for the dowry and wedding costs? The bride refused to let her husband touch her for two months. He tried but she did not let him. Her father took her away from her husband’s house still a virgin.
Answer 3
Question 4
What is the ruling on using Zakah funds, collected by a charity, to help those who meet the conditions of poverty and destitution get married, where a collective wedding would be held for twenty to thirty persons with costs ranging from one hundred and twenty to one hundred and fifty thousand JDs?
Answer 4
Question 5
I come from a middle-class family. I have a sister who is getting married next year. My family relies on my income—not for their daily expenses, but because they want to save money for my sister’s wedding.
My question is:
One of my non-Muslim friends is struggling to cover his daily expenses. I have the intention of guiding him towards Islam, InshaAllah, in the future.
Would it be permissible for me to provide him financial support instead of assisting my family (just for a few days until he becomes stable)?
Answer 5
Question 6
From an Islamic perspective (based on Hadith or Quran), who is responsible for covering the wedding expenses?
According to my understanding, in the KZN province, the bride’s family bears the wedding costs, while in the Cape province, the groom’s family takes care of the expenses.
Note: I am aware that in Islam, the groom is responsible for covering the costs of the Walima.
Answer 6
Question 7
What is the ruling on taking a usurious loan to cover marriage expenses if one has no other means to afford the wedding costs? Additionally, what is the ruling on recording the wedding party on a video camera?
Answer 7
Question 8
I have a few questions about marriage and would deeply appreciate your guidance. A few months ago, a brother proposed to me, and I accepted. I have known him for a few months, and he is a good person, Alhamdulillah. He is striving to strengthen his connection with Allah (SWT), and I believe, Insha’Allah, that together we will help each other grow closer to our Creator.
We are both of Pakistani origin. As you may know, in our culture, parents often prefer grand and elaborate weddings. Personally, I have always envisioned having a beautiful wedding where I can celebrate with my loved ones, Insha’Allah. I do not wear the hijab yet and would like to wear a traditional Pakistani bridal outfit (lehenga).
I have discussed marriage arrangements with the brother several times. His father recently underwent spinal surgery and will be unable to move for at least six months to a year. Doctors have advised that he should not walk, stand, or sit for more than five minutes due to severe pain.
Because of this, the brother does not wish to have any wedding celebrations, as his father would be unable to attend.
He wants the Nikah to be conducted over the phone so that his father can be present at their home while I remain at mine (we both reside in London).
I understand that Islam encourages us to respect our parents’ feelings, but I am the one getting married, and I would like to be present at my own Nikah. Is this arrangement permissible? Would it not be unfair to me? What would you advise?
I have agreed to forgo multiple wedding events and have only one Walima, where both our families will be invited. However, he is against inviting too many people, as he believes it could cause disputes among relatives and that such gatherings often turn into mere fashion displays. He also does not want any celebration since his father cannot attend.
He prefers the Walima to be completely segregated. Since I know this may not be entirely feasible, I have planned to arrange separate seating areas for men and women, as I have seen this done before. I want to look beautiful at my Walima, Insha’Allah, and would like to wear a traditional Pakistani bridal outfit. I would also like to take photographs and have the event recorded. Is this permissible?
Answer 8
Question 9
Is it permissible in Islam to borrow money with interest to cover wedding expenses?
Answer 9
Question 10
What does Islam say about extravagant spending on weddings, such as lavish parties and excessive decorations?
Answer 10