Question 1
Salam Alaykum sir,
My name is Mounika. I was a Hindu but I am now following Islam. I and a Muslim guy named Irfan have been in love for the past 8 years. He made a promise on Allah (Allah Kasam) that he would marry me.
At first, I was not into Islam, but I started fasting during Ramadan from my 6th class along with some Muslim friends. My parents never opposed it, and even after seeing my determination, my mother also fasts for 2 days in the month of Ramadan. But they are not following Islam even though they believe in Allah.
When Irfan came into my life, he was initially fine with it, but slowly he started talking about Islam. I began learning more about it, learning how to pray Namaz, Tahajjud, Nafl Namaz, Salatul Tasbeeh, Salatul Tauba, and memorizing Surah Yaseen. I continued learning and practicing Islam. He noticed these changes and loved me more, promising once again that he would marry me.
Both of our families are not accepting the marriage. His family is pressuring him, threatening to commit suicide if he marries me, and even my father has said that he will die.
Despite this pressure, he promised to marry me, but suddenly after Ramadan, he started abusing me and said he is leaving the city.
What should I do? I told him that when you promise on Allah, you should fulfill it. After 8 years of love, I have changed everything for him, but now he is saying that it’s his wish and he can do whatever he wants. I did Istikhara and dreamt that we got married. I have always been good to people, gave Zakat, and helped those in need. I don’t want to lose him. Please help me.
Thanks,
Answer 1
Question 2
I am in love with a girl from my university, and we both want to get married. My family asked me to perform Istikhara first, so we agreed to do so. We had an Istikhara done by someone else, and it came out negative. This made it really difficult for us, but we still had contact for a while. Eventually, I tried to tell her to move on, though it was very hard for me. Eventually, we ended all contact. I started praying more and tried to not think about her, but it was really painful. I asked Allah to help me, and then I went to the Imam at my mosque for advice. He said it was preferable to follow the Istikhara but that if it was really hard for me, I could do Istikhara again after some time.
I decided to change my life, removing things that might anger Allah and doing things that please Him. I started praying five times at the masjid, quit singing and playing the guitar, and grew a beard. I realized I should do these things to please Allah, regardless of the outcome with the girl. I prayed to Allah for forgiveness, asking Him to make my marriage to her possible if it’s good for me. After a few months, my family went for Umrah, and I was able to perform Istikhara during our trip. I prayed earnestly for my marriage to her, and on the last night in Makkah, I did Istikhara and had a dream where I was praying Salah. I decided to repeat the Istikhara after returning home, and in that dream, I saw myself with my sister, moving up through a tall building towards my father. There was a feeling of satisfaction after waking up. I went to the Imam again to discuss it, and he said the dream did not appear bad. However, my father suggested we consult a mufti for a more experienced opinion.
Now, I’m uncertain whether we should proceed with the marriage. I know that I cannot go against Allah’s will and will accept whatever happens. But I’ve prayed so much, and I feel deeply for her. I feel that my prayers should be accepted, especially considering the sincerity behind them and the fact that I prayed in front of the Kaabah. Can you guide me on what to do?
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Question 3
Love marriage in Islam?
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Question 4
I am a 21-year-old university student. Over the past 3 years, I have fallen into numerous types of sin with girls due to my weakness and constant feelings of loneliness.
Recently, a close friend of mine introduced me to a girl, and we like each other and want to get married. Both of us are happy, and I have approached my father about my intentions. From our conversations and subsequent discussions with others, the following concerns were raised by my family:
1.  She is Pakistani, and I am Gujarati. We don't have strong cultural differences, but this is a concern for my father. He mentioned that if she were Gujarati, he would have gotten the nikah done immediately.
2.  I am a student and should focus on my studies, but I believe I will continue to sin unless I get married soon. I believe marriage will provide peace and improve my academic performance.
3.  She has had a difficult and traumatic past. I believe everyone has a past and can change when guided by Allah, and this should not define her.
4.  She is young (16 years old), but she is very mature and understands the seriousness of marriage.
5.  I am a student and can't financially support her at the moment, but we have agreed to delay the rukhsati until I am able to provide. I explained my situation, and she is willing to start our life together even though it may be difficult.
I believe that if I don't get married, I will fall into sin, as I need a close companion. My family refuses to listen to my concerns and has suggested maintaining a haram relationship until I graduate. I feel as though I'm in a political game with emotional blackmail, and no one understands my feelings and situation.
I want advice on how to proceed, as my family is not supporting me in this matter.
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Question 5
My husband and I will have been married for several years this year, Insha Allah. However, he completely lacks affection, love, or romance toward me. I have spoken to him about this many times, telling him how much it hurts me, and I've asked him if there's anything I can do to make it better, but he just refuses to answer me and ignores me. I feel like I cannot continue in this marriage as I am very unhappy most of the time. It feels like he treats me badly, and this leads to us fighting every day. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Question 6
I would like to marry a local girl. Initially, I planned to approach her father directly, but instead, I contacted her first. After our conversation, she accepted me, and I informed her that I would speak to her parents about marriage. However, she later changed her mind, stating she was not prepared for marriage and did not want a traditional married life at this time. She is 20 years old. Should I leave her or pursue this further?
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Question 7
My friend believes she is in love with a guy. She is religious and sought advice from a "holy man." She told him, "I love this guy, and he loves me, but there’s very little chance of us getting married because we are young, and our families wouldn’t agree. Am I committing a sin by being with him?" He responded that it’s not a sin as long as she stays committed to him, doesn’t date others, or change partners. Is this advice correct?
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Question 8
I am married with two children but have been separated from my wife for a while. I am in love with another woman and wish to marry her, but my wife does not want me to divorce her. I am concerned about doing the right thing in Shariah and balancing my responsibilities, especially toward my children. Can I remarry without divorcing my wife?
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Question 9
A boy proposed to me a few years ago, and I developed feelings for him, but my family rejected the proposal. I am unable to stop thinking about him and feel like I cannot replace him with someone else. I am worried that if I marry someone else, I won’t be able to do justice to my husband because I still love this person. How can I ask Allah to fulfill my wish and bless me with the person I want?
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Question 10
How can love marriages exist if one doesn’t become the person’s boyfriend or girlfriend first? Isn’t it necessary to get to know someone before making a big decision like marriage? But wouldn’t that mean forming a romantic relationship first?
Answer 10